Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Xavier Knows How to Love

Have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages? The author posits 5 'languages' are spoken when we are loving someone, or being loved. In order to feel loved, we must have our love language spoken to us. The five languages are: words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and gifts. It can be difficult to speak the love language of someone else, if you do not have the same love language.

Gabriel can be hard to love. He's prickly. The only way he likes to be touched is by being punched, kicked, and shoved (Tae Kwon Do and general shoving as you walk down the street- typical teenage junk). He's much more into sarcasm than affirmation. He feels that if you do something for him (like make his bed), it's taking away from his ability to learn to be responsible (his words). He likes to get gifts, and treasures them for years, and this may be his love language. However, it would be my guess that his language is quality time. The problem is that he is an introvert and needs time alone. Needless to say, it's hard to love him.

Xavier's primary love language is probably physical touch. But, Xavier is special in that he just exudes love. He spends a lot of his day trying to find someone to cuddle up next to. He constantly tells me people how beautiful they are. Xavier frequently does things for people, like bring them drinks and breakfast in bed. He goes out of his way to spend time with you and is totally focused on you while he's doing it. He also gives people gifts. I can't count the number of times he's brought me flowers. But, is he easy to love? Well, the fact of the matter is that I believe his love language is physical touch. Since he spends a large portion of his time cuddled up next to me, it's easy to love him.

But, Xavier, he knows how to love. You can't help feeling loved by him. That makes him special

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