What I never realized before was that my mother probably meant, "Please, run away for a few minutes so I don't have to listen to you whine for five minutes." I don't think I've ever actually told my children, "Let me help you pack." Usually, when they're angry enough to say something like that, I'm at my most calm. So, I am able to talk them down.
However, there are times when I am so frustrated that I may have told my children to pretend like they didn't exist for a few minutes while I calm down. They all know that this is not me saying I don't love them. It just means that I need a few minutes alone.
Today, one of my children was very whiney. He was having a very bad day that started last night. He sliced his finger open and, while he absolutely loves looking at other people's blood, he does not deal well with seeing his own blood. Sense this happened right before bed, it was not a good end to the day.
At any rate, after listening to him whine for 4 hours straight, I was ready for him to run away. My standard way of soothing myself is humor and music. It was probably not unexpected that the song "Run Off to L.A." by Kid Rock popped into my head. (Note: this is NOT a child friendly song!) I am now threatening to make this my ringtone for my children.
My moodiness (and I have a lot of it, I'll admit) always takes a predictable path. It can be illustrated by the path the music I listen to takes. So, this is what I listened to as I calmed down.
1. Run off to L.A. (Obviously written for a woman who's driving him crazy, but apropos to my situation)
This here ain't no love song and it ain't for you
It's for the folks who relate to what I've been going through
It's for the forty hour overtimer working man
And to the good women out there, I know you'll understand
Why don't you run off to L.A. and lose your mind?...
They say all we need is just a little patience
But what do you do when your
childwoman is too high maintenance, yeah
I'm hating to admit it even if it's your
Tell her pack your s***
And take the first train out of my life...
2. Uprising by Muse (because it's always worth listening to)
3. So Long Farewell by The Vandals (The song you're thinking of, just more suited to anger/frustration. IE It's rock.)
4. Back Against the Wall by Cage the Elephant
5. Second Chance by Shinedown (because every child deserves a second, third, and millionth chance)
6. Kung Fu Fighting by Fatboy Slim (because it's hard to stay mad while listening to this)
7. (If You're Wondering If I Want You To) by Weezer (As the tide of frustration begins to turn the other direction)
8. That's How Strong My Love Is by Otis Redding (because sometimes they need reminding)
9. More by Harry Connick Jr.
More than the greatest love the world has known
This is the love I'll give to you alone.
More than the simple words I've tried to say,
I'll only live to love you more each day.
More than you'll ever know,
My arms want to hold you so.
My life will be in your keeaping,
Walking, sleeping, laughing, sleeping.
Longer than for always is a long, long time,
But far beyond forever, you'll be mine...
And my heart is very sure
No one else could love you more.