Sunday, November 13, 2011

Go Have a Date

When Gary came home from Afghanistan, I had a very difficult time reconnecting with him. My sub-conscience had decided he was going to die while he was there, and I just disconnected. It was even difficult for me to convince myself to try to reconnect. I did though. You see, one day, I looked at my husband and thought, "I don't want to live like this. I love him. I need him. Now, I just have to remember that." One of the important things in a relationship is spending time together. Gary and I try to spend time alone together as often as possible. It nourishes our relationship. It is necessary. Our children are better for it, since our relationship is better for it.

Many of my friends say, "Well, I don't have time/money/energy/etc to go on a date." Let's face it, folks. Going on a date doesn't have to cost a lot of money. If your children are young, see if you can find someone to trade date nights with. If your children are old enough to stay home alone, you can go grocery shopping together.

That's right. I said, "Go grocery shopping together." This is not the most wonderful chore. Many people hate it. Go and do it with the person you need to spend time with. This is time you can spend talking, bonding, and generally being together. Hold hands. Chat. Be together. That is the most important part of a date, being together. Go have a date with that person whose love you're wanting to cultivate. Spend time together. It will pay off.

1 comment:

  1. Back in NJ when the kids were babies, a giant grocery store went up near us - very pricey, but a huge selection of all sorts of stuff, as they can only do in huge metropolitan areas: organic, foreign, quirky, unique, locally grown, imported from Antarctica, authentic, etc. They were big into the grocery shopping date night idea. Their eating area was more like a sit-down restaurant, they had tons of samples with ingredients so you could go home and make it yourself, they had a huge bakery with brick-fire ovens and all sorts of goodies pouring out.

    I think it's important for couples to continue to have common interests and to develop those common interests. Some couples like to go golfing. Some like to go hiking. Some like to buy food and eat it.

    Bill and I always run errands together. I'm bummed because the boys went camping this weekend, so our built-in babysitters were away. NEXT weekend, we'll get out.


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