Well, actually, we're not. We're living in a society where people don't talk to each other anymore. Our conversations are much more superficial and meant, frequently, to change the other's person's mind.
Today, one of my professors challenged us to learn to be open to giving up our ideas because we've come to see that your idea is better than ours.
Better conversations, he charges, require hospitality. It's not just being nice (something I excel at), but making room for the person and their ideas in you mind and life. Hospitality requires engaging with them until they inhabit your world and dwell in your mind. It requires being willing to make room for people who are different than you, knowing you will be a different person at the end of the conversation.
I thought this a profound and important idea that I want to dwell in my own mind for a bit.